It just never ends. So apparently my borderline ex is trying to wear my son down with more gaslighting and manipulation. It sounds like he’s just breaking down around her because of all her borderline behaviors and she’s refusing to do a DBT workbook to make his life easier. Of course she’s lying to me, I’ll never get the truth out of her, but my son isn’t borderline. I know that because I have the same reaction to her behavior as any more sane person would. If someone is screaming at you that the sky is purple and degrading you and calling you every horrible thing in the dictionary, you tend to double down that the sky is blue and respond in kind.

So of course I started asking questions about the situation, and she spent most of the time speaking out of both sides of her mouth. She said she works 80 hours a week and is never home, while somehow simultaneously always spending time with her kids. Which is it? That’s not even the only bullshit she shoved in my direction. She truly is one of the worst borderlines in the midwest. Easily.

She keeps talking about how the courts are going to be upset with me for not kissing her ass, which is comedically sad. That’s nowhere near based in reality. She certainly isn’t the brightest crayon in the box. She’s more like that bulb on the string of christmas lights that you can’t tell if it’s lit or not.

The reality is that the courts are not going to appreciate her filthy and unheated home. They aren’t going to appreciate her borderline histrionics either. They never do. She’s so badly borderline that reality is far outside her grasp.

I’m just exhausted, honestly, and I very gratefully don’t have to put up with her bullshit anymore. The further from my life she can get, the better my life is. She just doesn’t seem to realize yet that most people feel that way whether she love bombs them or not.

Hey borderline, can you not “idealize” and “devalue” my son, please? He deserves more from you. He deserves better. He doesn’t deserve that bullshit you apply to your husband and your mother and everyone else in your life. He deserves a real relationship and not borderline up/down bullshit. Thanks. And it wouldn’t kill you to be honest once in your life, either.